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Hugh O'Connor Memorial

Tribute to Hugh

Hugh Edward Ralph O'Connor
(April 7, 1962 -March 28, 1995)
I Did Not Die
Do not stand at my grave and forever weep.
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush.
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand there at my grave and forever cry.
I am not there. I did not die.
                                               -Melinda Sue Pacho
Feb. 20, 2013: Season 8 is to be released in April and can now be pre-ordered. I'm really glad they're releasing the final season, but it seems weird that they didn't release Seasons 2-7 first.
Dec. 17, 2011: I finally got my tribute video uploaded to Youtube again. If you'd like to see it, you can find it here:

March 28, 2008: Here it is the thirteenth anniversary of Hugh's death. In some ways, it feels as if the time has been short, and in some ways it feels as if a lifetime has gone by. Those who were not affected by his death might wonder why it still matters to me after all these years. I had just turned fourteen when Hugh died, I was a big fan of his and of "In the Heat of the Night", and I had been traumatized the previous year by a dream of his dying. But aside from those reasons, there is the simple fact that Hugh O'Connor was a human being -he was a beloved son and husband, father and friend; he was a man who struggled, who fought, who suffered. The family and friends he left behind will certainly never forget, nor cease to grieve. This website is my flower on his grave, my monument to a man who died too young and too tragically. Even if most of the world has moved on, he mattered, and he will be remembered. If you are visiting this site today to remember Hugh, I invite you to sign the guestbook.

Also, you can leave a note for Hugh at the findagrave website (direct link is on the links page), and you can check out, where fans continue to remember Hugh as we knew him best, as Lonnie Jamison. Finally, if you are interested in seeing “In the Heat of the Night” on dvd, you can go over to and vote for it.